Dating a black south african man
It's our responsibilty as young people to change that!And then actually pomp them and start going out in public together and stand in the queue at movies with them and all that?Go to braais and say, “This is my girlfriend Letsego? Maybe you know some Xhosa, maybe you’ve had black friends all your life, maybe you been building RDP houses in Katlehong for the past ten years. When you hang with her mates, you will spend a lot of time staring blankly into the middle distance, smiling vaguely, while people bellow at each other in vernac, laugh their arses off and generally have more fun than you.You can marry six black babes in a row and you’ll still be a racist. There will be Beyonce, yes, but old-school stuff you didn’t know existed. On one occasion you’ll drive the whole way from Sandton to Kempton listening to Forever My Lady by Jodeci. It’s disturbing having your lady look completely different and you’ll be shocked when she first walks in the door. Try not to gasp – she’s invested eleven hours in this, after all. You look amazing.”When you go out with a white babe, guys seem to at least grant you the basic respect of waiting till you’re not around before they try to woo her away from you. You can be standing right next to her at the gym, and some dude will grab her by the arm and ask her where she’s from.
Think of it as a romantic gesture, defending your lady’s honour. I'm a white Afrikaans guy, 23 years of age, and I'm definitely attracted to black women. ” or Lonwabo, or Sibu, or Kate because she grew up with a white family. If you stick with it, you’ll get to meet her family, where the same scenario will play itself out times a hundred. Cultural ceremonies are basically extended talk shops where the okes – the men, mostly – get to showcase their thousand-year-old debating skills.African culture is basically a massive, continent-wide Toastmaster’s club.Lobola negotiations are supposed to be handled between the uncles of your two clans. Even if her dad’s a company director, and your old man’s a caretaker at the Boknes caravan park. And you’ll have a moment in the lawyer’s office where you’ll want to rip your face off.