Advise for dating
Men Are Confused by Women's Definition(s) of "Controlling Behavior." On many of the dates I've had, women talk about the controlling behavior of former partners. Worse yet, the metric for what is controlling changes, so that something we did one day that was just right somehow is too controlling when we do the same thing two weeks later. I just know it's a problem that men cannot solve, and it might help you to be aware of our confusion.
You appear to want decisive guys who can take charge and be assertive. After what may be decades of commitment and teamwork in a marriage, couples often reach a point when they stop viewing sex as a necessity in a relationship now built upon the strong tenets of trust, friendship and love.
I got this text before a date (which I then declined to go on): "If you don't have a substantial retirement in place or big income, we will not be a match." Other dates have said they are only interested in rich men. And one actually put forth the idea I should write her monthly checks. But it also isn't 1870, and if there is mutual attraction, at this stage of our lives, waiting a long time -- whatever that may be -- seems equally foolish.
But if you've already made the determination that he's worth a date, see where it goes for a bit before passing judgment.6. Money is probably not a great date topic even if it's really, really important to you!
But when that crosses the line into controlling behavior, it is always a bad thing. A lack of sex in a marriage, however, can turn couples into buddies or quasi-roommates and make that special spark even harder to ignite.
Though many of them had positive observations, a lot of what they had to say dealt with their male companions being self-centered, boring, arrogant, duplicitous, needy and/or unwilling to commit (sometimes, impossible as it sounds, at the same time). I've never understood the myths fostered by the makeup industry, but if you want to wear it, okay. I had pointed out previously to men that some of things they say on dates aren't particularly wise.
Just know that you look great to many of us older guys with it or without it.3. When women say they don't want to settle, it never comes across sounding good.4. Just as I advised men to stop talking and LISTEN, it's beneficial when it goes in both directions.
A little while ago, I offered unsolicited advice for men over 50 about dating. -- Stop worrying about how your body looks at your age. And those chunky men you're with have no room to complain.
This came mostly from what women had told me about their dates. And while I'm confident men over 50 are generally worse at dating than women of that age, I'm equally sure that both genders can learn as they navigate new relationship terrain. Mature women take much better care of themselves, as a rule, than mature men. Regardless, women's bodies -- whatever the age -- are the second most miraculous creations on the planet. If a guy criticizes your body, point him toward a mirror and move on.2. Women's faces are THE most miraculous creations on earth. There's truth to the maxim that older faces reflect character and wisdom.